Let's Talk Spanking (2024)

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Do spanked kids behave better? ›

While spanking may create a sense of fear in your child in the moment, it won't improve behavior over the long term.

But as a general guideline, I would suggest that most corporal punishment be finished prior to the first grade (six years old). It should taper off from there and stop when the child is between the ages of ten and twelve.

“Preschool and school age children — and even adults — [who have been] spanked are more likely to develop anxiety and depression disorders or have more difficulties engaging positively in schools and skills of regulation, which we know are necessary to be successful in educational settings,” he says.

People may enjoy spanking for several reasons, such as: the release of power and responsibility. relaxation. stress relief.

One of the strongest statements about discipline is in Proverbs 23:13-14, which states, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod you will save his soul from Sheol.”

The survey suggests that a majority of children in the US were not being spanked in the past year. The rate of spanking was 49% in the past year for children ages 0–9, 23% for youth 10–17 and 37% overall. The only group for whom spanking seemed to occur to more than half were the children ages 2–7.

Children remember being spanked, and as adults these memories are very strong and lead to feelings of significant anger and betrayal.

In that study, data were collected at birth, and at ages 1, 3, 5, and 9. The researchers found that children who were spanked more than twice a month at age 3 were more aggressive at age 5. Those who were spanked at age 5 showed more negative behaviors and lower vocabulary skills at age 9.

Positive punishment involves adding an aversive stimulus after an unwanted behavior to discourage a person from repeating the behavior. Spanking and chores are examples of this. On the other hand, negative punishment involves the removal of something desirable.